Knock Knock....Ahh! not again yaar. Every evening whenever i tried to sleep, there would intermittent knocking at the door. It's not because I am very popular or most sought after but the problem is that my room is at the corner of the so-called squared LakeView hostel and is nearest to mess or the nearest exit point for my wingies. For everyone, it's just a one time or twice a day but for me I don't know how many times. Everyone knocks during dinner time, but this doesn't mean that everyone is desiring to dine with me; it's just because my room is at the corner and I can't do a thing against this. But there is at-least a benefit for me where I am the closest to the mess or the exit point. And never get late to class because that single knock in the morning by atleast a one make my day.
But all these above experiences make me realizing the fact that may be one way or other, whenever we are hurting someone even for once but it may be that he/she is being hurt by many others. And if under that circumstances, he/she reacts against you; you should not confront back but instead try to solve his problem by listening to him. In normal day to day life, what i feel is that we are trying to take benefits from others or knowingly or unknowingly hurting someone. Here, I am not saying not to take benefits but atleast not using them just for our good. It may be possible that someone is frustrated just because of its position or location etc. But there are also benefits associated with that and we just have to realize the benefits and manage the ill-effects.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Interests Contd......
Can one devote (or you can say waste) his 2 to 3 years of most productive phase of life just for a goal he/she is not contempt with.
Well, the answer is in affirmative and up till my knowledge they are mostly Indians. And the worst side to that is they are the most brilliant minds.Just for the sake of building the profile to get an entry into the Ivy League or HBS or LBS, they are involved into Start-Ups or into social works. The main motive behind all these efforts is to enter some of the best B-schools of the world and either be a Banker, Trader or CEO of any MNC.
Up till my exposure to such candidates, what i feel that they are in a race where they are supposed to prove themselves to their parents, friends, batch-mates or to the world. Neither do they have any interest nor they have the time to devote into something they like because by the time they are liking some field or job or work; another one is ready alluring them to be followed.May be this is because the way we Indian children are raised, where we are always compared with others either into our academics or in sports or in extra curricular activities. Competition is like the sixth sense organ we have from child, always bothering about something others have and never about the peculiarity we have. And the uneven economic distribution inside India is one among the major contributor to this. Every or at least most of the best minds from middle class families always aspire to be a CEO or MD or a guy with lots of money. Their aim is to be the best in the field they are choosing.
Up to this point, it's more or less acceptable but the problem comes when you become the best or you achieved the goal. Now you are aimless, the aim or goal with which you are thriving throughout your life is gone. Now you are looking for the field or the work you are most interested in.Here What i don't understand is; If finally we have to work into something we are most interested in, then why wasting 10 to 12 years of life in just proving yourself to anyone into a field which is not of your choice.
May be because of this, we Indians are very productive but rarely creative . Most of the time, we are good bankers, good consultants, excellent in programming but rarely we own a powerful programming language or a ground breaking/industry shaking patent.Thursday, December 22, 2011
Sustainable Career
When i was in 2nd standard i wanted to be the prime minister of India. That was becoz i heard from somewhere that it's the prime minister who owns everything we encounter in our day to day life.
When i came to 5th, i wanted to become a doctor because every time when i said to become prime minister; they laughed and said,"who wants to be prime minister? You should rather be a doctor or an engineer."
When i was in class 7, i came to know about novel prize and the charisma associated with that and i decided to be a scientist.
When i came to 8th, i came to know about IIT and engineering from my school seniors and my elder brother and the money i would be earning after that. Then i wanted to be an engineer.
When i was doing B.Tech, saw a glimpse of real world during internship. After reading magazines and lot of articles i decided to go for civil servicesand started preparing for that.
And now i am here doing MBA and focusing on finance as a career for me. You never know
"What life has stored in it for you."
Throughout my academic career of 21 years, i have been continuously going after one aspiration or another just on the basis of the career opportunities and so called WIIFM
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Does it matter.....
Last five days...i have seen more emotions than last five years of my life. Placements, especially the summer internship placements made the feelings so aroused even the most stable could not hold on his emotions. May be because of the expectations we have whenever we try to achieve our goal, may be because when we see our dreams to be lived by others, or may be because even after such a good friendship we don't want him to live the dream of our's.
But does that really matters; is it always necessary to sacrifice your friends in the line of competition; or isn't there is another way of achieving the same. Is that necessary to satisfy yourself with the lesser or change your path if you don't achieve your first goal of your life. Is that is life, where after betrayal and loss, you would change your path.
Don't know about others, but i don't think so. Life is there for me after every betrayal and after every loss. Emotions, friends, success and failure all are part of my life. But i would chose friends and losses for my life ....because they are the only who inspire me.
But does that really matters; is it always necessary to sacrifice your friends in the line of competition; or isn't there is another way of achieving the same. Is that necessary to satisfy yourself with the lesser or change your path if you don't achieve your first goal of your life. Is that is life, where after betrayal and loss, you would change your path.
Don't know about others, but i don't think so. Life is there for me after every betrayal and after every loss. Emotions, friends, success and failure all are part of my life. But i would chose friends and losses for my life ....because they are the only who inspire me.
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
New World.....
Sometimes knowingly or unknowingly, we choose that path of life you never imagined of. Joining IIM Calcutta is the same for. The type of people i am exposed to (at IIMC) is just non-comparable to any previous exposure. It feels like i am a sardine here at this institute, surrounded by people from Barclays capital, merill llynch, credit suisse, infosys, and many national and international banking institutions as well as other technical firms. Besides these, there are freshers like me but with far more brilliance than i ever had. Living in such an environment and attending classes with all of them in the same classroom make me sometimes feels like non-competitive with them. It seems to me that i am a naive in front of their work experience and their achievements in life.
But here, i have to realized the fact that i am here not to compete with others but to gain 'what they have' from them. I can learn a lot from each one of them, and that's should be my solo aim. Life is not just about competition at all stages of life, it is also about learning from your peers and achieve the goal you are aiming for not by competing with others rather by acquiring the necessary traits from them. Learning need to be the solo aim rather than success in life. And i realized this at this point of life. Hoping, you would soon realize the same better as soon as possible in its true sense.
But here, i have to realized the fact that i am here not to compete with others but to gain 'what they have' from them. I can learn a lot from each one of them, and that's should be my solo aim. Life is not just about competition at all stages of life, it is also about learning from your peers and achieve the goal you are aiming for not by competing with others rather by acquiring the necessary traits from them. Learning need to be the solo aim rather than success in life. And i realized this at this point of life. Hoping, you would soon realize the same better as soon as possible in its true sense.
Saturday, May 21, 2011
I aspire.....
The first time i aspire to achieve something was about 16 to 18 years back and may be it was an unconscious desire, but it was the first one of my life, where i got promoted in LKG and i desire to have good marks in UKG. It might be a childish desire, but in that dream all the efforts were going to be mine. Well, after that i had had very good marks.
Now, i aspire to stood first in my class, and that aspire of mine to be fulfilled required the efforts of mine, intelligence of mine and decision taking capability of mine or in short you can say the success of that dream all depends of me. And this time too i succeed.
Then came the eighth standard, i aspire to get highest among all the sections of my standard. Now, came the time to do hard work and more dedication to my studies. I had quit sports to complete my this desire too. And again all the hard work of mine paid me.
That was the tenth standard and i was too addicted to aspire and achieve all that i wanted. That time it was tenth board examination, and i aspired to get the highest ever achieved by anyone from my school up to that time. I worked hard, but somewhere in mind i was too much confident in achieving the same and not worked harder. Every time i committed some mistake in the paper, i just satisfied myself with the answer of mine. And finally after the results, there were almost five ahead of me in my own batch. I failed but still it was all fault of mine.
The journey started once again after that with the road of "aspire" going through IIT, A good job to the IIM. And all the time, it is just me who is going to decide tha fate of my "aspire".
But then came the blunder, this time i aspire to have my girlfriend (from 7th standard)my soulmate. And this time too, i am trying my best riding on the results of IIT, IIM along with a very good job; i aspire to achieve the social malpractice of casteism. But this time, i failed to recognize that the fate of this aspire of mine is not in the hands of mine, neither it's in the hands of mine efforts, hard work and all my achievements so far. Rather it's in the hands of that generation for whom caste and creed comes before life, for whom education is a medium of spreading the effects of casteism. This time i forget that "Aspire is life but only upto then when the fate of that aspire all is in your hand". This time i come in conflict with the society with my family with my dear ones with my childhood heroes but i never aspire to have a clash with these heroes of my life. You can say academically i achieved a lot or infact that for which more than half of today's youth of india aspire but in life i am in conflict with that society (which aspires to achieve what i am having) and with those parents (who aspire that their son will achieve that what i have already achieved). And the irony of my life is "I am still called SUCCESSFULL".
Now, i aspire to stood first in my class, and that aspire of mine to be fulfilled required the efforts of mine, intelligence of mine and decision taking capability of mine or in short you can say the success of that dream all depends of me. And this time too i succeed.
Then came the eighth standard, i aspire to get highest among all the sections of my standard. Now, came the time to do hard work and more dedication to my studies. I had quit sports to complete my this desire too. And again all the hard work of mine paid me.
That was the tenth standard and i was too addicted to aspire and achieve all that i wanted. That time it was tenth board examination, and i aspired to get the highest ever achieved by anyone from my school up to that time. I worked hard, but somewhere in mind i was too much confident in achieving the same and not worked harder. Every time i committed some mistake in the paper, i just satisfied myself with the answer of mine. And finally after the results, there were almost five ahead of me in my own batch. I failed but still it was all fault of mine.
The journey started once again after that with the road of "aspire" going through IIT, A good job to the IIM. And all the time, it is just me who is going to decide tha fate of my "aspire".
But then came the blunder, this time i aspire to have my girlfriend (from 7th standard)my soulmate. And this time too, i am trying my best riding on the results of IIT, IIM along with a very good job; i aspire to achieve the social malpractice of casteism. But this time, i failed to recognize that the fate of this aspire of mine is not in the hands of mine, neither it's in the hands of mine efforts, hard work and all my achievements so far. Rather it's in the hands of that generation for whom caste and creed comes before life, for whom education is a medium of spreading the effects of casteism. This time i forget that "Aspire is life but only upto then when the fate of that aspire all is in your hand". This time i come in conflict with the society with my family with my dear ones with my childhood heroes but i never aspire to have a clash with these heroes of my life. You can say academically i achieved a lot or infact that for which more than half of today's youth of india aspire but in life i am in conflict with that society (which aspires to achieve what i am having) and with those parents (who aspire that their son will achieve that what i have already achieved). And the irony of my life is "I am still called SUCCESSFULL".
Monday, May 2, 2011
How it starts.......
We all born blank and white in character. For some it's the situations which transforms them into good or bad as per their ability to take and judge the happenings with them, for some it's the surroundings into which they are raised that cultivates the feeling of being good or bad and for most of us it's the gradual change that happens with all of us staring right from our school or college life that makes us into a courteous or impudent.
In the beginning like during school days we try to do our jobs first, and then take care of others if one is benevolent enough right from his childhood. As most of us are unaware of throat cutting competition lying ahead in future and take utmost care to our friends or least to liked ones. Still at this level we make fool of others sometimes in greed to prizes, or for results or just to get favour from the teachers. More or less it's the best part of life to have selfless friendship.
Then comes the college life, where we are much aware of our future and career, already spent 12 to 16 years of life facing competition in school life, we are much acquainted with it and used to discover more newer ways to get ahead of others by hook or by crook.Now we are more concerned towards our jobs first and then our's pleasure and then comes the friends or others. This is the stage where we start neglecting other concerns and other problems and more worried about ours.
Then finally we come out into the brutal world where we become much more worse than ever. Now to succeed, we even make use of poor's money to buy a Merc, porche or audi. Now to show our status and for our pleasure we even forgetting our duties towards society. And above all to prevent ourselves from landing into any problem we started using loopholes of society to get our work done and leave the rest to hell.
If this is happening to us, i refuse to grow , i refuse to walk past my college boundary.
In the beginning like during school days we try to do our jobs first, and then take care of others if one is benevolent enough right from his childhood. As most of us are unaware of throat cutting competition lying ahead in future and take utmost care to our friends or least to liked ones. Still at this level we make fool of others sometimes in greed to prizes, or for results or just to get favour from the teachers. More or less it's the best part of life to have selfless friendship.
Then comes the college life, where we are much aware of our future and career, already spent 12 to 16 years of life facing competition in school life, we are much acquainted with it and used to discover more newer ways to get ahead of others by hook or by crook.Now we are more concerned towards our jobs first and then our's pleasure and then comes the friends or others. This is the stage where we start neglecting other concerns and other problems and more worried about ours.
Then finally we come out into the brutal world where we become much more worse than ever. Now to succeed, we even make use of poor's money to buy a Merc, porche or audi. Now to show our status and for our pleasure we even forgetting our duties towards society. And above all to prevent ourselves from landing into any problem we started using loopholes of society to get our work done and leave the rest to hell.
If this is happening to us, i refuse to grow , i refuse to walk past my college boundary.
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