What I appears to my friends or my relatives or any other individual is a guy who is the happiest of all. The reason behind their thinking is my academic degrees that is a combination of IIT and IIM, a girlfriend from school, a decent well paying job in a start-up.
But these are something which is superficial to a character like me and many others who are like this. Having all such degrees and facilities and things to boast upon, there lies a sense of responsibility to all the stakeholders of your life. Be it your parents, your girlfriend, your business associates, your friends, your relatives. And when you are in a position to influence and bring change in the life of others either academically or monetarily, everyone has expectations from you. And since the meaning of your success is so much associated with the praise of all these stakeholders in your life; you just can't ignore their needs and expectations and you need to manage your time. And then here comes the problem.
Till now, you never realized what you actually want from life; because from childhood the career path is being fixed in a country like India where because of economic inequality people are focused on materialistic lifestyle. And to earn money and live a powerful influential lifestyle, these degrees and jobs are the easiest way. But now when that path comes to an end and you are fulfilling needs and expectations of all other than you. A feeling of self neglection starts arousing inside you, and you will thinking about all your wishes which would been neglected in achieving this lifestyle.
It's at this time, in my case I am thinking about what i really want to do in life, what i want from my life. What i want to see myself doing for next 30 to 40 years rather than just living a life where I am earning money and satisfying needs of families, relatives or friends. This doesn't mean that i am neglecting them, but rather it's a coexistence of both's wishes and needs.
That's why what I feel at this stage is that first make yourself happy and comfortable with your work and wishes by discovering the true yourself (obviously for those who are done with academics) and then entertain others wishes and needs to be fulfilled by you. And the balance needs to be established.
But these are something which is superficial to a character like me and many others who are like this. Having all such degrees and facilities and things to boast upon, there lies a sense of responsibility to all the stakeholders of your life. Be it your parents, your girlfriend, your business associates, your friends, your relatives. And when you are in a position to influence and bring change in the life of others either academically or monetarily, everyone has expectations from you. And since the meaning of your success is so much associated with the praise of all these stakeholders in your life; you just can't ignore their needs and expectations and you need to manage your time. And then here comes the problem.
Till now, you never realized what you actually want from life; because from childhood the career path is being fixed in a country like India where because of economic inequality people are focused on materialistic lifestyle. And to earn money and live a powerful influential lifestyle, these degrees and jobs are the easiest way. But now when that path comes to an end and you are fulfilling needs and expectations of all other than you. A feeling of self neglection starts arousing inside you, and you will thinking about all your wishes which would been neglected in achieving this lifestyle.
It's at this time, in my case I am thinking about what i really want to do in life, what i want from my life. What i want to see myself doing for next 30 to 40 years rather than just living a life where I am earning money and satisfying needs of families, relatives or friends. This doesn't mean that i am neglecting them, but rather it's a coexistence of both's wishes and needs.
That's why what I feel at this stage is that first make yourself happy and comfortable with your work and wishes by discovering the true yourself (obviously for those who are done with academics) and then entertain others wishes and needs to be fulfilled by you. And the balance needs to be established.
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