Families teach us social behavior and along with that certain constraints. Constraints can be in term of what not to do as a part of social behavior and it is a result of familial experience over time. But, it's among the friends, where we learn beyond those constraints. This happens because of equal say amongst friends and collective risk taking while adventuring unconventional activities.
This is my experience at IIT Roorkee with an entirely different set of friends and my learning from them. At the time of my admission into IIT Roorkee, I was introvert, refrain from public speaking, under-confident (inferiority feeling when met with a student with fluent English) and in a habit of lying to hide my weakness or status. But on positive note I want to remain honest to few, have a decent aptitude and believe in hard work to learn and excel.
Once inside the campus and in next four years, after interacting with friends I learned a lot what to do and not to do and this had a deep impact on my personality. The results of these learning are visible over a period of time into my behavior and character. Some of my key takeaways from few friends:
Friend 1: I never had seen such an individual who is so much confident, fearless and intelligent. Inside a GD room during campus placement, I would never ever ask for pen from panel itself (obviously because of introvert nature); but this guy did that. And he taught me to be natural, not to fear of societal bondage and rituals. But at the same time, he was not consistent and having a poor emotional quotient (gradually improved a lot with exposure to friend circle).
Friend 2: This guy's simplicity and no nonsense attitude is worth to be learnt and practiced in real life. I although inspired from this but couldn't bring that into my life till now. But what I learn from him regarding not to do is never following a path blindly. You should always keep your eyes and ear open while preparing to achieve something.
Friend 3: I didn't have any sense of style, either in dressing or in conversation. This guy reminded me of the importance of presentation and sharpness in life (still lacking a lot). Also from him, I learn how not to waste time. And from his experience in life, I realized the importance of farsightedness and rational decision making in life.
Friend 4: This guy made me realized that extreme of everything is bad. And you have to balance your family, friends, love life and academics at the same time. But one thing that made this guy stand apart was his people skills and this quality was the savior for him. People skill is something, I always wish to master.
Friend 5: I never understood the rationality behind his behavior. Only learning, I am having from this guy is what not to do. He may act in a way, that show me 'the way' not to be followed. It may be a disaster for him but a learning for others like me.
Friend 6: This guy has a lot of traits to be learnt. But the problem here is inside me, because I never took the initiative or feeling of learning from him because of my competitive nature. I always tried to excel more than him and rarely took notice of his abilities and behavior to be followed.
I don't feel that after graduation I became perfect with my learning from these pals. But I do feel that my personality has improved a lot and it will take time to personalize those envious traits. But one thing I can confidently say, that forty years down the line, these guys will definitely have a contribution to my success (up to whatever extent that success will be).
Once inside the campus and in next four years, after interacting with friends I learned a lot what to do and not to do and this had a deep impact on my personality. The results of these learning are visible over a period of time into my behavior and character. Some of my key takeaways from few friends:
Friend 1: I never had seen such an individual who is so much confident, fearless and intelligent. Inside a GD room during campus placement, I would never ever ask for pen from panel itself (obviously because of introvert nature); but this guy did that. And he taught me to be natural, not to fear of societal bondage and rituals. But at the same time, he was not consistent and having a poor emotional quotient (gradually improved a lot with exposure to friend circle).
Friend 2: This guy's simplicity and no nonsense attitude is worth to be learnt and practiced in real life. I although inspired from this but couldn't bring that into my life till now. But what I learn from him regarding not to do is never following a path blindly. You should always keep your eyes and ear open while preparing to achieve something.
Friend 3: I didn't have any sense of style, either in dressing or in conversation. This guy reminded me of the importance of presentation and sharpness in life (still lacking a lot). Also from him, I learn how not to waste time. And from his experience in life, I realized the importance of farsightedness and rational decision making in life.
Friend 4: This guy made me realized that extreme of everything is bad. And you have to balance your family, friends, love life and academics at the same time. But one thing that made this guy stand apart was his people skills and this quality was the savior for him. People skill is something, I always wish to master.
Friend 5: I never understood the rationality behind his behavior. Only learning, I am having from this guy is what not to do. He may act in a way, that show me 'the way' not to be followed. It may be a disaster for him but a learning for others like me.
Friend 6: This guy has a lot of traits to be learnt. But the problem here is inside me, because I never took the initiative or feeling of learning from him because of my competitive nature. I always tried to excel more than him and rarely took notice of his abilities and behavior to be followed.
I don't feel that after graduation I became perfect with my learning from these pals. But I do feel that my personality has improved a lot and it will take time to personalize those envious traits. But one thing I can confidently say, that forty years down the line, these guys will definitely have a contribution to my success (up to whatever extent that success will be).
What did you learn from me by the way?
ReplyDeleteMili to hai nahi abhi takk.... how can i learn then.
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